Since the early days of my son going to school I have always had this love/hate relationship with the school holidays.

I love them because it is a time of fun and games.

There is no morning rush of getting everyone ready and out of the house on time, giving me these few super nice extra minutes of sleep in in the morning.

There is no homework to tackle at the end of the day.

There is no project to hand in lurking at the back of my head or forms to fill in that needs to be given back on time.

The pressure of performance and result has evaporated and it is easier to just be without much planning as to what happens next.

Yet it is also a time where, as a mum, I am way more solicited for my time and attention.

It is a time where my kid has so much time on his hands that he doesn’t know what to do with it and can become naggy or glued to the television.

It is a time where as a work-at-home mum I feel that I get very little accomplished and that can be very frustrating to downright drive me crazy!

However, if you were to ask me whether I would trade them for a whole year of non-stop school if that was possible, my answer is very clear and definite. I never would.

First because I know it is a much needed and important time for children, and for learning. Children absolutely need this time to just be kids and do what kids do best: play! They also need this time away from school to integrate a lot of what they received during the term.

I’ve heard many teachers mention that some of their students who had trouble getting a concept before the holidays somehow were just able to “get” it after a holiday break.

Our brains need downtime to function well, and holidays serve that purpose very nicely.

And second because no matter what the downsides are, for me holidays are all about connection.

It is this special time where I can take a little more time to be present for my kid, to have this extra conversation with him, to play a game we wouldn’t usually have time to play.

And while I don’t always manage to be true to that if I’m all stressed out, deep down inside I know that this is what truly matters and what I aim for.

So, during those moments where school holidays are frustrating and annoying the heck out of me, I remind myself that these are just moments where I’m actually loosing track of what truly matters. And whenever I replace that frustration with a moment of connection, things suddenly fall back into place again.

And I especially love the end of year holidays as the connections through family gatherings and friend’s get together make it that extra special!

Happy holidays to you! Wishing you a super special time with your little ones.

 

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